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Wake up to Love!

by Frank Crocitto

Last month Frank told of his infatuation with love and the idea of love. In his inimitable—well, maybe not that inimitable—personal, poetic, pseudo-philosophic and sometimes illuminating style he recounted (in a superfluity of words) being cast as Mercutio in Shakespeare’s great love play, Romeo and Juliet, and how his life parallelled the events of the play. Even to the playing of Mercutio’s death scene. . .
“This scene was easy for me; I’d been practicing dying on the streets of Brooklyn for years.”
All of which leads Frank to see the lack of real love in the world. Disillusionment fires his spiritual quest, a quest that results in finding an “unknown.” And a way to wake up to love!
As I was saying, the sun rises in the east and so does the new light for each dark age. This is how it has been in the past: Zoroaster, Buddha, Moses, Jesus, Muhammad and more recently Rumi and The Bab and Baha’ullah. They all arose in the East. So there must be a law about this, as there is about everything else. And this new light that each one brings ignites like a Bic lighter at the darkest point of the dark age, as if the hand of darkness couldn’t help itself and has to flick on the light.
A dark age never knows it is dark—understandably, not having light to make the contrast. A dark age lives in a dark dream that it is an “enlightened” time. This is what makes its darkness so deep. Look at these times: a canned and soda pop society proclaiming its “culture” to the world, and gaining countless adherents. Destruction is called development and noise is labeled music. Mastering trivia is the height of education. Grand times.
So into our darkness a light has shone—a peculiar, unpredictable light. Not every sun that also rises sports such dashing moustachios. This one comes from a corner of the world where a moustache is not the insignia of a villain. Born within spitting distance of Mt. Ararat, where Noah’s Ark supposedly ran aground, of an Armenian mother and Greek father, self-taught, self-willed, unvictimized by higher education, a seeker and a finder, this self-styled herald of a new world carried with him an old-time smell that blended with a thoroughly modern mentality.
What makes the advent of George Gurdjieff so appropriate as light-bringer to these dim, chaotic times is that he doesn’t fit any of the stereotypes. He is not a cliché of a spiritual figure. He doesn’t wear sandals or a robe or smile a sanctimonious smile. He’s a man to be reckoned with. He wears pants, eats with a knife and fork. He listens attentively; he speaks precisely. He is kind, tender; he shouts and curses. He destroys any dream that we may be spinning about making him into a guru.
The teaching that Gurdjieff brought and taught is so unlike any other imported to the West it has been called an “unknown teaching.” Starting with a shockingly accurate description of man in his usual state, it presents a precise, specific, practical strategy of human evolution. Its psychology enables people actually to do something with themselves, to get free of old mindsets and habit-patterns, as well as to harmonize the mind, the emotions and the physical body. Through exercises in observation and the development of attention, a person can transform negative energy, dismantle the false ego, connect to the real “I” within and to go beyond the small, petty world of me-and-mine to the larger world of humanity and life on earth, to become a positive force in the great cosmic process to which we are usually oblivious.
As we and our train of Third, Fourth and Fifth World countries go reeling into the next millennium, we had better have a more spiritual teaching than good old gallopping consumption to sustain us and hold us together. And that teaching had better be free of priests and bible-bangers and dogmatism and gullible believers. And it had better be something that people can live in the circumstances of their own lives, every day of the week. And it had better be true and unadorned. And it had better be a real teaching that people can work at and not a musty old dream-teaching.
Though this teaching is tailor-made for the world that we’ve made, it doesn’t go down easily. For those who prefer not to look at the way things are, it can be highly offensive. Take Gurdjieff’s assessment of the lives we lead, the springboard for his whole teaching:
“We—meaning you and me, and most specifically you who are reading these very words—are sleeping, asleep on our feet and dreaming our lives away. All our thoughts and plans and efforts and reactions come out of this walking-sleeping dreamy state. The real world is all around us but we are out of touch with it. Supported by our families and friends, by the society we live in with all its current ideas and institutions, the sleep enters every stratum, moving like chloroform, pervading our literature, our media, our religion, our politics, our arts. The sleep is hypnotic and all-pervading. The sleep is so deep we imagine that we are awake and that we are acting as conscious beings, oblivious of the blatant fact that all we think, do and say arises from our personal, subjective fantasy world. We live in sleep and we die in sleep.”
Hardly a message to gain thousands of blissed-out-sappy-happy disciples. Or to get the messenger recognition in the Encyclopedia Brittanica: it has taken the E B three-quarters of a century to begrudgingly squeeze in two small paragraphs on Gurdjieff.
Undaunted by the lack of popular acclaim, Gurdjieff goes on delineating the place of self-deception and imagination in our state of waking-walking-sleep. In this sleep we are able to deceive ourselves about ourselves continually, weaving dream pictures and dream stories around our exaggerated self-importance, growing troubled and offended and distressed only when life and others defy the fantasy. Our imagination, which could in a true waking state be used to create, is devoted to puffing ourselves up. We imagine and we believe the spinnings of our imagination: unconscious, we imagine that we are conscious; subjective and touchy, we imagine that we are objective; ignorant, we imagine that we know; unable to fix our own life, we correct everyone else’s; a whole, contradictory and unruly crowd, we imagine that we are one single, integrated person (explaining away the many opposing people within us as the many sides of “my rich and varied character”). What’s more, driven by passing desires and moods, we believe ourselves to be possessors of will, and of “will-power,” as well as of freedom of choice. And to top it off, possessing neither stability nor substance, we imagine and believe that we are immortal. A delightful dream picture that so satisfies us that we never make any actual effort to earn these capacities.
Enough, you say. Why dwell on all this business about sleep anyway? Even if it is true? If it’s true we’re going to forget it anyway and go on dreaming, so what’s the point? And what the hell does all this have to do with love?
Well, one reason I bring it up, in such a sweet pudding of an article on love, is because it sheds light on the collegiate quandary I mentioned earlier. (You remember: Why is there so little love around when we sing about it and wish for it so much?) If people are not really awake and are merely sleepwalking and acting and talking from their dreams, how can they be expected to love? If each is sleeping and dreaming their own dream, how can they see one another and listen to one another? Doesn’t all the hurt and harm and killing we do come because we’re not in touch with the real world?
If we could awaken from this sleep that Gurdjieff’s teaching talks of, we could begin on the path of love. We could learn how to love and we could develop the ability to love.
There are those who will scoff at the idea that Gurdjieff’s teaching is a path to love. Imprisoned in intellectualism, one can hardly do otherwise. This approach drags in superiority and contempt for others. So these scoffers point to the published material on the Teaching to show how infrequently the word love is used. And they’re right. You’ll find plenty on attention and watchfulness, but little on love. Yet if one looks deeper, one sees the wisdom of avoiding hollow and worn-out words in approaching the real thing.
“Love” is so downplayed in the Teaching that some conclude that it is a loveless system. The classic encounter between Waite and Ouspensky illustrates this misapprehension.
Years ago in merry old England when Gurdjieff teacher Peter Ouspensky was drawing hundreds of notable seekers to his lecture hall, he once drew Arthur Edward Waite. Waite was a renowned occultist who had popularized the tarot. Having come to check out this Ouspensky and this new teaching, he listened for a while, listening as most of us do, for the words that fit into our scheme. When he could listen no longer (to this talk of sleep and of the necessity to awaken) Waite stood up and declared:
“Then, there’s no place for love in your system, Mr. Ouspensky.” And he promptly walked out.
Any teaching—just like a bowling ball—can be given a spin. It all depends on emphasis. Though Gurdjieff’s teaching has been presented in a chilly fashion, it can be presented far more warmly. And truthfully. His Teaching can provide us with a practical way to love and magnify that love through a hungering universe.
To taste the true flavor of this Teaching all we need do is look at the man himself. No one who got near Gurdjieff ever characterized him as “cold.” Searching for 20 years through dangerous corners of the world, synthesizing the results, setting up schools from Moscow to Paris, spreading his message despite revolution, bullet wounds, lack of funds, difficult students, a hostile press, Nazi occupation, car crashes and bodily deterioration, he was a man with hot coals in his pockets! And while it is true that he didn’t wear his heart on his sleeve, it was in the right place. And should you hear the recorded voice of Mr. Gurdjieff you’ll be surprised at the warmth, the love that comes across.
Then there is this much-neglected exhortation of his: Make Love Your Aim, and Then Look for Direction. In that simple sentence we have the key to understanding the purpose of that magnificent edifice that he called “The System.”
When we make love our aim, we no longer seek mere definitions, we are no longer satisfied with the show and surface of love. We recognize the obstacles in us and work at developing the ability to love. And, most importantly, since a person, absent, dozing in the land of oblivion can love only in his dreams, we strive to wake up.
Listen to the best-selling poet in America, Jelalludin Rumi, from 12th Century Persia, dinning our ears with the urgency to awaken:
He has the work who has become desirous of good
and that work’s sake is not identified with
any other work. The rest are like children playing
these few days till the departure at nightfall.
When any drowsy one awakes and springs up, him
the nurse Imagination beguiles, saying,
‘Go to sleep my darling, for I will not
let anyone disturb thy slumber.’
But you (if you are wise) will tear up your
slumber by the roots like the thirsty man who heard
the sound of running water.”

NEXT MONTH:
TAKING AIM: The Three Pillars of Love