LIBRA (September 22-October 23)
You are being gently tugged to keep your focus on yourself. I say gently, though there's a persistence to this that has been present for a while; it's coming into focus now in a new way. As there are currently fireworks exploding in your house of relationships, that may be a challenge, though it's one that humans have faced persistently through the modern era. I would call this the "all or nothing" issue. It involves an orientation on relating to others that results in a loss of inner focus. This creates the dual self—the illusion of the "relationship self" and the "actual self," which I believe is the cause of most misery and instability in relationships. I think that the path out of this is to cultivate the mindfulness to be yourself at all times, attentive to your whole reality. If you find that your relationships dominate your existence to the point where you, or some central experience of yourself, is negated (rather than, say, enhanced), then I suggest you come back to yourself. You can do this before you have to break up with anyone or sign your life away. You can do this all the time, every minute, in the course of which you honor your reality and the reality that you share with someone else. It may feel awkward at first but it gets easier with practice.