Gemini (May 20-June 21)
You no longer need that umbilical cord wrapped around your neck. You no longer need to live as if you were born out of your father’s head, possessed of all his thoughts and totally enamored of his approval. At a certain point, every healthy child recognizes that he or she is a distinct individual, with individual will, volition, desire and independent ideas. While there are certain factors that currently seem to be binding you to what you’ve always felt was expected of you, this time in your life has a certain daring quality that will give you many incentives to take risks that nobody in your family would ever dare. You need to beware of the potential self-judgment that what you are doing or desiring is “not real” or that if something is too much fun, it cannot be productive; it cannot be a real relationship. You could spend some time questioning where you learned those ideas, and where those people who taught you got their information—but not too much time, please. Once you determine something is not true, drop it fast, in favor of what is.
Cancer (June 21-July 22)
What you express to yourself is what you have available to express in relationships. I suggest, therefore, that you be abundantly open with yourself and within yourself; keep absolutely no secrets about what you want, who you want, what you need, and who you need. As you do this, you will obviously stumble into inner pockets where revealing your own feelings to yourself will have a daunting quality, as if the world might end if you admit some urgent necessity to yourself. You may feel self-righteous if you dare to claim your identity or your desire to be a certain way in the world. I would add that you may feel it’s unethical to concentrate so deeply on self-knowledge, because somehow that negates the existence or reality of others. I promise you, it does no such thing. The more you know yourself, the more you will know, love, and appreciate others. The freer you are with yourself, the more others around you will feel free, and the wider and brighter space they will have to love you.