Denise Kunisch of Warwick had been trying to conceive for nearly three years and was just beginning to research in vitro options when she came across Inconceivable. “I was very drawn to it. It was a hopeful story, which I was really looking for,” Kunisch says. “It clicked with so many things I believed in.” She carefully followed many aspects of Indichova’s protocol: “Yoga, wheat grass, organic foods, no sugar, very little meat—and organic and grass-fed when I did eat it. I felt fantastic, both physically and emotionally.” But she didn’t get pregnant. “There was nothing physically wrong with me or my husband that anybody could find,” she says. “The doctors had told me I was pretty much done—I was 36 years old. I decided to do IVF because I fell back into desperation.” But that didn’t work, either.
Kunisch hadn’t yet explored one area of Indichova’s approach: the emotional aspect. “I thought, ‘How important could it be?’” Yet she knew something lingered there. “As a child, it seemed like being a mother was really awful. My parents were divorced when I was two, and my mom, with three children, was very unhappy and stressed out,” she says. “So I think subconsciously that was very significant in my difficulties.” Through using imagery exercises in the book and attending The Fertile Heart workshop, Kunisch came to understand that her mother had experienced a bad childhood, too, and could forgive her. What’s more, she says, “I was able to separate my experience from my mother’s, and realize how different my life is. I have a wonderful husband, a fantastic relationship, and a peaceful home. She never had that.” A month after the workshop, Kunisch became pregnant (as we go to print, she will be a mom at any moment).
Embracing the mystery
Quoting philosopher Søren Kierkegaard, Indichova rejoices that “Life is a mystery to be lived, not a problem to be solved.” So it is for fertility, in Indichova’s view (and opposite the approach of medical fertility intervention, which seeks a problem and prescribes a fix). “One of the incredible gifts of being faced with an allegedly insurmountable diagnosis of infertility is that it finally brought me to faith,” she says. “I had taken a lot of workshops without finding it. Now I have a closer experience of what faith is, and I live from that place.” This is not faith in any particular god, but in one’s inner wisdom and own miraculous self. It’s about creating a fertile life in myriad ways. “There is no assignment more gorgeous,” Indichova stresses, “than to ponder what it is that creates life.” Workshop attendees and clients concur that Indichova’s approach is about turning a very difficult, painful situation into a positive one.
Indichova delights that doctors admit that fertility and pregnancy are mysterious. “All the physicians and reproductive endocrinologists I’ve interviewed speak about the fact that there is so much they don’t understand,” she says. “To me, it’s really good news that there is so much that obviously is unexplainable. There’s a huge opportunity with this particular challenge in people’s lives, and in our culture generally, to bring us back to reverence for creation.”
In addition, people seeking a baby will find a welcome, much-needed community among others doing the same. “I congratulate everyone who wants a baby and finds themselves in the midst of searching,” Indichova says. “We form a beautiful community, where looking at truth is an essential piece. I’m so grateful to everyone for doing this work with me.”
To learn more about Julia Indichova and about The Fertile Heart Approach to Conception workshops, low-cost phone support circles, and circles hosted by women under Indichova’s guidance, call (845) 679-5469 or visit www.fertileheart.com.