If you understood how much of your insecurity was about trying to please others, you might find yourself getting angry. And if you do find yourself getting angry, consider that it’s about trying to make sure that everyone approves of everything—from your plans to your state of mind—before you allow yourself to make a move. I suggest you try this month to seek nobody’s approval for anything. Make up your own mind about everything. Even in matters involving family or household, you’re entitled to your own opinion, which means an opinion that others might not agree with. As you start to do this, you might notice that you’re sloughing off layer after layer of submission, conciliation, people pleasing, and what you believed was give-and-take. All of that is the opposite of taking authority. And taking authority is what you’re about to do. This will require some actual courage, and I believe you’ve got that available. You will need to follow what both your instincts and intuition tell you. The information is coming into your awareness from a deep place. You know what is true for you. Now what you must do is count that as relevant and make a decision that the emotional dramas of others are irrelevant to you living your life in the way that is right for you.
This article appears in August 2013.
So no “give and take”? Just “What is right for me is all that matters”? I understand doing what is right for me, but isn’t there a balance? Or is this a step on the road to that balance? What if it is a choice and not a submission? Is it ever REALLY a choice? This really is a lot of bother…think I’ll go see if there are any Klondike bars in the freezer…