You may be feeling like long-resolved fears are suddenly being stirred up: Stuff like whether you really fit in, whether you feel authentic and whether it’s even safe to be authentic. These are some of the enormous paradoxes of the social world that we all have to live with. The important thing is that you not try to compensate for any insecurity, or cover it up, or pretend it’s not there. Face the issue directly. Remember, it’s not “all you,” but you’re the one in the driver’s seat on resolving the theme of where you belong in society, including what friends you want or need. One thing that’s clear is that zone of belonging is changing, and elements are dissolving. In astrology this is about the same house as your highest wishes. By that I don’t mean your goals, but one step beyond your goals. I mean your dreams. One thing that gets in the way of what we want now is letting go of what we wanted in the past, but which no longer serves us. So do a little inventory. Make sure you include taking off the list things that you have attained or become, and keep your focus on what you want in the future. One reason you depend on a measure of over-focus on certain objectives is that your true desires have a tendency to change so fast. Part of letting go of the past means reassessing your desires quickly. The ones that matter most will come up again and again—that’s how you’ll know they’re real.
This article appears in June 2011.
