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Relationships need a purpose. That is to say, both parties to the encounter need a common reason for being there, otherwise the experience can degrade into something self-serving for people who are mutually using one another. Yet it’s astonishing how rare it is for people to work with a tangible shared purpose. Raising children and paying the mortgage can fill in for a while, though it needs to go deeper. You might ask yourself what the purpose of each of your relationships is—especially the thing you consider your primary relationship. If you don’t have one of those and are looking for one, you might ask yourself why that is. If the answer is companionship, what’s the nature of that? Is it about completing something missing within you, or is it the desire to co-create? Do you have some mutual purpose related to service? Do you have a healing agenda that you can share with a close partner? That would serve your purposes well. When we say love, we mean trust, and trust is about understanding that your presence in someone’s life is to make their life better, as is their presence in yours. As you orient on this, you’ll be taken to a deeper emotional level than you may be accustomed to going, especially in recent years. Hang in with this purpose, and with the people you care about.
This article appears in April 2017.
Aren’t most people “generally using each other?” There are a lot of wolves in sheep’s clothing, pardon the clich, circling around lonely people.
Jane, what you share may simply be a belief and not an actual truth. A belief often becomes like a magnet to attract people and events into your life to prove your belief is truth. Since it is not my own experience of most people in my life, I don’t feel that others in my life use me. Nor has it been my experience that there are many wolves circling me when I am feeling lonely. In fact, quite the opposite. I believe most people are honest and if I needed them, asked for support…they would be there. I seem to attract people and events that prove that true as well. It can be quite liberating to know we can choose our interpretations, meanings, and experiences in our lives. Hope you are able to shift your beliefs about most people so you can experience the deeper emotional connection and purpose he is talking about in this horoscope. Warmly, Julie
The first sentence sums it all up beautifully: “Relationships need a purpose.” Without asking the “why” question and really knowing it, relationships become aimless and unfulfilling.
The basic questions about ones life purpose, values, and the answers to why we want the things we want could be found in dealing with the Second House, the home of Taurus (ruled by Venus). Perhaps, during this Venus Retrograde, it would help to look to this house for guidance. To “go back” on the Astro wheel and study the lower mind of Venus.
For a Libra, the higher mind is already understood intrinsically. But to really understand Venus’ power in our chart, we have to know it fully. Study the second house ruled by Taurus in general and also see if there are any clues in your own chart that could help you learn more.
Perhaps it would also be helpful to “go back” on the Astro wheel and study the second house (life purpose, basic wants and desires) to understand the lower mind of Venus. Since Venus is retrograde, maybe there’s something to be gained by studying Venus more holistically. Also if there is anything going on in the second house in an individual birth chart or transit chart, that could provide some insight as well.